There are a LOT of myths surrounding complaining.
And in this video, Will takes on the most prevalent complaining myths!
Like, the one about people needing to vent.
Many people believe that human beings need to vent their anger, disappointment and frustration like letting air out of a balloon before the balloon pops.
But, take a second and really think about this idea that people need to blow off steam.
If people needed to vent off their frustration and anger, then the people who complain the most would be the happiest people in the world.
And we know that’s not true.
Learn more about the myth of venting, the myth of positive thinking, and other complaining myths in this final video in the series.
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Hey Will. Great lesson by the way. I believe I’m more of the conscious incompetent stage. I got the package as a gift to my family and myself and now only find myself doing the lessons. Btw I really enjoy your course. Silly and funny question, is there a such thing as legitimate complaining? It seems like an oxymoron but I had to ask.
Hey Marlon. Glad you’re with us. As you change, your family will too. Anytime you’re speaking to someone who can resolve your problem AND you’re speaking in a neutral voice (not whining) it’s ok.
I’m in the conscious competent stage. This is a second go round in the process. I did it a few years ago , succeeded, and eventually ran out of bracelets. My question is, where does grieving fall into this? I lost my mother a year ago and sometimes miss her terribly. I feel my feelings and have gratitude that I had her and we had a good relationship. I have no regrets but I miss her.
the feeling is natural. Else you would be an automaton. Its how you deal with it. I think your attitude is excellent
Hi Will. Nice lesson! The whole idea has been a gift for the planet, I’m sure.
I’m at the conscious competence phase. I’m on Day 7 today. I love the movie, The Secret and the entire idea of taking 100% responsibility for our lives (making our own lunch). I’ve only been at this program for a couple of weeks, but it reaffirms everything I believe about mental and emotional hygiene!
Thanks for your great work!
Thanks for program, Will.
I’m at the hyper-conscious competence stage! Today is Day 7. And I love how your work reinforces The Secret and all those great ideas about taking 100% responsibility for your life and results. I may not control all aspects of my life, but I can control how I think about them, what they eventually mean to me, and how I choose to behave based upon the meaning I give those experiences. Turns out, I have some work to do! Thanks for the help!
I’m in the conscious competent stage although I found myself yesterday making inappropriate comments to a male coworker about a married woman at work. I have to stop this.
Dear Will,
I am in the conscious competence stage. I have always been a big, big complainer and wondered why I never had peace within. This series has opened my eyes. My husband is so much happier, too.
Comscious incompetence stage
good morning .Will, and thank you for everything that I have learnt so far. It is mentally tough but very rewarding.
I am at the conscious incompetence stage, very aware of what i am saying. I have learnt to cope better in certain situations eg, while driving I am complaining less and find myself becoming a better calmer driver. I am still struggling with early morning greetings with people 99% of which are negative and in conversation which I am learning mostly lean towards negative viewpoints.
However your emails and video’s are an enormous help and keep me motivated
Conscious competence – I’m really aware of whats what’s going on especially when it comes to certain topics. The weather for example seems to be a common complaint oriented topic in my house, but it’s cool to reframe it as chalk full of opportunity. It’s kind of fun being the observer.
Only getting started after procrastinating. Conscious incompetence. I have been there for years! Got through yesterday so on day 2.
I am familiar with the competence model. I suppose the constant work is increasing competence even when it is still conscious. It could be a trap to denigrate one’s progress because it is in this stage. I think it may be the most meaningful stage because that is when one constantly has to exert discipline.
Conscious Competent stage. Today I just walked away from a person (my dad, eek) who is usually upbeat but started talking negatively about politics. That was hard but I did not what to move my bracelet. I also feel like I’m giving people the silent treatment when I don’t respond to their criticism or complaints. However, I shall persevere.
Hi Will, I have enjoyed your program immensely. I believe I am Conscious Incompetent with a foot into competent. My downfalls are video games and conversations on current events. I can stay clear of the current events but the gaming can raise my adrenalin and something will slip out. Overall its a game changer. I have barely cracked into the book and my communications with other folks have greatly improved. The quick start videos really motivated me. Thanks for the bag of bracelets It does provide a pleasant reminder. I have requested to join the Facebook group also.
Hello Will!
Is it possible to be in both 2 and 3 stages? Sometimes I catch the complain before speaking, but other times the complain is faster than me and I end up speaking the complain.
Thank you so much!
I’m in the conscious incompetent phase. Grateful to this challenge for making me more aware and pleas pray for me to keep with it and be patient and loving with myself and not give up. I thought i might make it to day 3 today but I got out of the bath this morning and complained to my husband, “It’s cold!” Ooof! Back to day 1 tomorrow. I guess I should track this somehow so I can at least celebrate that I made 2 whole days without complaint!
Consciousness incompetence stage. Thank you for writing your book and also thank you for all these 9 videos as well. They are a great help!!!
What I was wondering is that I have learned the Sedona method with Hale Dwoskin. He has a goal’s course and for example when stating a goal he recommends never to put the word in it that is a negative word. Eg. Pain free or Complaint free because then we are holding on to that which we don’t want. Eg. I allow myself to live a radiantly healthy life with grace and ease. Instead of saying I allow myself to be pain free. What are your thoughts about this? Thank you.